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December 13, 2025, will remain indelibly engraved in the hearts of family and friends as
a day of rare and radiant joy. On this memorable Saturday, the twin sons of Professor
Patrick Dakum, National Coordinator of the Christian Couples Fellowship (CCF), were
united in holy matrimony, marking a milestone of love, faith, and family. The celebration
shimmered with even greater meaning as it coincided with the birthday of the grooms’
mother, Mrs. Sarah Dakum—transforming the moment into a triumphant triple
celebration, alive with warmth, laughter, and profound spiritual significance.

The Church of Christ in Nations (COCIN) Headquarters Cathedral in Jos, Plateau State,
was alive with excitement as Retji and Plangji exchanged vows with their beloved
partners, Kangyang Pwajok and Pamela Pam. Friends, family, and distinguished guests
gathered to witness the unions, setting the stage for a day brimming with elegance,
emotion, and divine blessing.

At the heart of the ceremony was a deeply reflective sermon titled “Let your yes be yes
and your no be no,” delivered by Rev. Agwom Azi Magaji, the guest preacher. With
clarity and conviction, he called on all couples present to anchor their marriages in truth
and integrity, reminding the congregation that the Kingdom of God is firmly established
on honesty.

He urged the newlyweds to see marriage not as a contractual arrangement, but as a sacred
covenant—one sustained by honesty, prayer, endurance, and forgiveness. “Be faithful in
your words,” he charged, “so that your ‘yes’ remains true and your ‘no’ sincere.”
Drawing from John 8:44, he described marriage as the greatest opportunity to live with
integrity, cultivate deep intimacy, and honor God in daily life. Rev. Magaji further
encouraged the couples to live as citizens of heaven, whose promises to one another
require no oath, for true commitment flows from the heart and cannot rely on human
strength alone, but grace.

He highlighted the essential pillars of a lasting marriage: prayer, endurance, and
forgiveness. He reminded the couples never to take the family altar for granted;
emphasizing that prayer sustains and strengthens every union. He also spoke of the
promise of endurance, encouraging them to remain steadfast through both celebrations
and trials. And, he said, forgiveness is the lifeblood of love, enabling couples to grow,
trust, and nurture each other. “A vow is more than words,” he remarked. Vows, he said
are sacred promises of faithfulness through life’s joys and challenges. “It is a declaration
of purpose, a commitment to remain faithful through life’s joys and challenges,” he
reiterated.

The weddings drew an impressive gathering of guests from within Nigeria and across the
globe, including dignitaries from the University of Maryland, Baltimore, USA, as well as
representatives from South Sudan, Gambia, Rwanda, and the United Kingdom. The
presence of prominent Nigerian leaders—among them the Governor of Plateau State,
Barrister Caleb Manasseh Mutfwang, former Governor Senator Joshua Chibi Dariye, and

Rt. Honorable Yusuf Adamu Gagdi, a member of the National Assembly—lent notable
grandeur to the celebration.

More than 100 couples attending the 2025 annual Christian Couples Fellowship Retreat in Miango were reminded that their marriages are in a spiritual battle for their very souls.

Christian marriage is for life, says Rev. Dr. David Pofi who was giving a charge on purpose-driven Christian homes, emphasizing that it is disturbing when Christians even consider divorce. He attributes this to a lack of understanding about God’s purpose for marriage.

Rev. Pofi emphasizes that God’s purpose for marriage includes procreation, mutual companionship, sexual fulfillment, and raising godly children. He stresses that divorce has no place in Christian marriage, attributing it to hardness of hearts rather than God’s original design. Citing Matthew 19:7-9, he notes that the concession for divorce was given by Moses due to the Israelites’ hard-heartedness, underscoring that divorce is a departure from God’s ideal for marriage.

Rev. Pofi stresses that God hates divorce, which is not part of His will. He laments that divorce has become prevalent even in the church. According to him, divorce often stems from primary causes  like stubbornness and hard-heartedness, and secondary causes which are often symptoms of deeper issues such as selfishness, disagreements and poor communication, which can manifest in couples who claim to follow God but don’t truly submit to Him. In contrast, when Jesus is at the center of a marriage, it can flourish and last a lifetime, as supported by Hebrews 3:12-14.

Rev. Pofi warns couples that when they cite reasons for divorce, they’re often just identifying symptoms. He notes that wherever there’s a ‘because,’ there’s usually a deeper underlying cause. Fault-finding and selfishness, for instance, can be signs of a dying marriage, rather than the root causes themselves.

Rev. Dr. Pofi reiterates that understanding their peculiarities and making adjustments in marriage are crucial to fulfilling God’s purpose. He urged couples to prioritize their relationships and make necessary adjustments from the start to build strong, lasting marriages.

Christian couples were told that no normal Christian will embark on divorce – that divorce is never an option. While divorce is defined as a legal dissolution of a marriage by a court, when couples become isolated and disconnected, they’ve essentially divorced each other in practice, even if not formally.

When couples meet Jesus they never remain the same. Divorce is stepping out of God’s will into Moses contemplation of stubbornness. Marriage is for life. Catch the little foxes in your relationship and your marriage will flourish. Be ready to obey the living word of God.

 

Every woman entering marriage must do so with the mindset of being a helper—because the man requires help, and he, in turn, must be willing to accept it. To truly fulfill this role, a wife must understand her husband—his background, temperament, and uniqueness.

At the 2025 Christian Couples Fellowship retreat, Guest Speaker Dr. Segun Falope urged husbands to live with their wives in understanding, recognizing that their wives come from different backgrounds and experiences. “If a man is truly made, the home will be great,” he concluded.

A purpose-driven marriage, Dr. Falope explained, is ordained by God to raise godly offspring. “You can only produce your kind—that is why you must first be built by God,” he said, citing Malachi 2:15 to encourage couples to provide a conducive environment for their children’s well-being. He stressed that raising godly children requires time, attention, and balance between home responsibilities and other pursuits. He advised couples to attend school programs together and be actively involved in monitoring their children’s growth, noting that “to carry children in your bosom is to carry them in your heart.”

Dr. Falope also emphasized that sexual fulfillment within marriage is an integral part of a purpose-driven home. He cautioned couples not to reduce intimacy to material transactions or defile it by introducing pornography or perverse practices. “Sex is a powerful glue in marriage,” he said. To husbands, he warned against infidelity, urging them not to “drink water from another man’s well.”