Every woman entering marriage must do so with the mindset of being a helper—because the man requires help, and he, in turn, must be willing to accept it. To truly fulfill this role, a wife must understand her husband—his background, temperament, and uniqueness.
At the 2025 Christian Couples Fellowship retreat, Guest Speaker Dr. Segun Falope urged husbands to live with their wives in understanding, recognizing that their wives come from different backgrounds and experiences. “If a man is truly made, the home will be great,” he concluded.
A purpose-driven marriage, Dr. Falope explained, is ordained by God to raise godly offspring. “You can only produce your kind—that is why you must first be built by God,” he said, citing Malachi 2:15 to encourage couples to provide a conducive environment for their children’s well-being. He stressed that raising godly children requires time, attention, and balance between home responsibilities and other pursuits. He advised couples to attend school programs together and be actively involved in monitoring their children’s growth, noting that “to carry children in your bosom is to carry them in your heart.”
Dr. Falope also emphasized that sexual fulfillment within marriage is an integral part of a purpose-driven home. He cautioned couples not to reduce intimacy to material transactions or defile it by introducing pornography or perverse practices. “Sex is a powerful glue in marriage,” he said. To husbands, he warned against infidelity, urging them not to “drink water from another man’s well.”