An important truth couples should understand is that it was God who made the woman for the man. The man was not created for the woman, but the woman for the man, said Dr. Segun Falope, who was speaking at the 2025 Christian Couples Fellowship retreat.
For a Christian home to be purpose-driven, both husband and wife must recognize the divine purpose behind their union. It is God’s purpose that defines a marriage—because it is purpose that determines design, he said, adding that just as a man is designed according to God’s purpose, so also is a woman.
Dr. Falope explained that God did not make a mate for the man, but a help meet for him. Before God, man and woman are equal, yet their roles are complementary. “Mates compete,” he cautioned. “When you see your wife as a mate, there will always be the temptation of rivalry, conflict, and struggle. But partners meet. Your wife is not your mate in the boxing ring.”
For a woman, challenges in marriage should never be a reason to give up. “Your role as a wife is superior to your profession and even to your parents, because you were not made for them but for your husband,” Dr. Falope emphasized. He added that a wife must not substitute her children for her husband, noting, “That is why a woman cannot say, ‘I am staying in this marriage just because of my children.’ You are called to live for a divine purpose. You are God’s solution to your husband’s aloneness. When you understand this, you begin to live for a higher purpose.”