More than 100 couples attending the 2025 annual Christian Couples Fellowship Retreat in Miango were reminded that their marriages are in a spiritual battle for their very souls.
Christian marriage is for life, says Rev. Dr. David Pofi who was giving a charge on purpose-driven Christian homes, emphasizing that it is disturbing when Christians even consider divorce. He attributes this to a lack of understanding about God’s purpose for marriage.
Rev. Pofi emphasizes that God’s purpose for marriage includes procreation, mutual companionship, sexual fulfillment, and raising godly children. He stresses that divorce has no place in Christian marriage, attributing it to hardness of hearts rather than God’s original design. Citing Matthew 19:7-9, he notes that the concession for divorce was given by Moses due to the Israelites’ hard-heartedness, underscoring that divorce is a departure from God’s ideal for marriage.
Rev. Pofi stresses that God hates divorce, which is not part of His will. He laments that divorce has become prevalent even in the church. According to him, divorce often stems from primary causes like stubbornness and hard-heartedness, and secondary causes which are often symptoms of deeper issues such as selfishness, disagreements and poor communication, which can manifest in couples who claim to follow God but don’t truly submit to Him. In contrast, when Jesus is at the center of a marriage, it can flourish and last a lifetime, as supported by Hebrews 3:12-14.
Rev. Pofi warns couples that when they cite reasons for divorce, they’re often just identifying symptoms. He notes that wherever there’s a ‘because,’ there’s usually a deeper underlying cause. Fault-finding and selfishness, for instance, can be signs of a dying marriage, rather than the root causes themselves.
Rev. Dr. Pofi reiterates that understanding their peculiarities and making adjustments in marriage are crucial to fulfilling God’s purpose. He urged couples to prioritize their relationships and make necessary adjustments from the start to build strong, lasting marriages.
Christian couples were told that no normal Christian will embark on divorce – that divorce is never an option. While divorce is defined as a legal dissolution of a marriage by a court, when couples become isolated and disconnected, they’ve essentially divorced each other in practice, even if not formally.
When couples meet Jesus they never remain the same. Divorce is stepping out of God’s will into Moses contemplation of stubbornness. Marriage is for life. Catch the little foxes in your relationship and your marriage will flourish. Be ready to obey the living word of God.